Dating someone you dont know very well
Maybe it’s because you have some fundamental differences of opinion (whether or not you want kids, where you want to live), maybe it’s just someone wildly inappropriate you’re dating because you’re young and you can.This can be a perfectly right person for you if you’re not looking for a long-term commitment, but if you want something lasting and don’t see it with the person you’re with, then they’re not the right one. Let’s get some things straight: love triangles are messy and cheating just leads to people getting hurt. “Well, we live together, so just until the lease is up.” “We just bought tickets for a cruise, so maybe after that’s over.” “Well, it’s wedding season and I don’t want to go alone.” If you’re at this point, you probably know your relationship isn’t the right one, but you can always find a reason to put off that breakup.You have that nagging feeling something just isn’t right.This is the most subtle of the signs, because that feeling of “not rightness” can be something going on at work, or crappy weather, or what you ate for lunch, but it also might be your relationship.So you've only been at your job for two weeks, and you have to get your boss a holiday gift?And well, well, well, looks like you've got Earl from accounting in your office's Secret Santa pool?The Heights, Anatomy of a Skyscraper, By Kate Ascher, .95, available at Barnes & Noble.
You can keep finding excuses forever, so it might be better to just bite the bullet before you wake up one morning and realize you wasted years with someone you might not even have liked that much. If your relationship with someone reduces you to secret tears in the bathroom at work more often than it generates uncontrollable laughter, this is not the relationship for you.Relationships are grand, but I’m of the school of thought that I’d rather be in no relationship at all than in a bad one.